I had a medical occurrence one day and that got me thinking about death. My very next thought was about my family. There are so many things I want to tell my children but they are not old enough to understand yet. I could write letters to them, but what if they get lost or the person I entrusted them to doesn’t deliver them, or they are delivered too soon? And so ToLovedOnes was created. Our goal is to ensure delivery of your letters to your loved ones when you want them delivered. In addition to writing my children a letter for their sweet sixteen I also wanted to write them a letter for those precious life moments that don’t have a known date, such as, when one of my children has their first baby. We designed our scheduling system so that our letters would be delivered for any conceivable date or special event that we could think of. I sincerely believe that the personal care we took in solving this problem for us has the same attention to detail and care that you would take to ensure proper delivery of your letters to your loved ones.
1: Create an account
You create your account with us. If you provide your birthdate and social security number then we can use this information to look up your passing from public records. If you don’t want to give us this information or you also want to delegate a trustee to notify us of your passing then you can provide a trustee code. You give this trustee code to your trustee who will in turn use this code to notify us of your passing.
2: Create a recipient
You create a recipient and provide contact information for this person. We will use all the contact information you provide to reach this person. You can create an optional secondary contact for this person. If we can’t reach your recipient then we will try to reach the secondary contact and ask them to provide updated contact information for the recipient so we are able to deliver the letter to them.
3: Write your letters
You write your letters to your recipient. Each letter can have its own unique delivery date.
4: We deliver your letters
If we detect your passing from public records or your trustee notifies us of your passing then we will attempt to contact you for several days to make sure it’s not an invalid response. If we don’t hear back from you then we will accept this as proof of your passing. Once the date you specified for your letter to be delivered comes around, we will send a notification to your recipient stating that you have left a letter to them. The recipient will visit our site and enter the code we sent them and then be presented with that letter. If there are additional letters for that recipient then they will receive notifications for those letters once those delivery dates comes around.